This week I wanted to talk about how to date yourself. Why? Because honestly, you set the tone for how you will be in relationships, plutonic or romantic. Your most important relationship is the one that you have with yourself and if you do not begin there, you end up setting yourself up for failure in future relationships. And of course, I want to set you up for success.
I want to let you in on a quick secret first. Did you know that your happiness is your responsibility? I know it sounds a little crazy because we have been taught that someone is just going to come in, sweep us off our feet, and we live happily ever after. The reality is that it is we who need to define what happiness is to us and when we do, make sure that we do what it takes to get it and keep it. It is not another person’s job to come in and make you happy. And honestly, if you can’t enjoy your own company, then how can someone else?
Ok now that that is out of the way, let’s talk about dating yourself. Why date yourself you may be wondering. You want to date yourself because you need time to get to know you and to learn how to treat you. This is how you set the bar when you begin to date. Actions speak way louder than words and people believe what you do and accept over what you say. And the truth is, you can feel lonely in a relationship too. But you don’t have to go down that road. So here are 3 tips to help you to begin to date yourself.
1. Journal what you need and want to receive from you. Is it love, self-care, or respect? How can you begin to do those things for yourself? If it is love that you need, can you spend more time doing healthy things for yourself like reading and journaling for self-improvement or working on your personal boundaries? Could it be spending time in nature to decompress? What do you need from you that you may have been expecting it to come from someone else? Write it down so you can create your new routine based off of what is on this list.
2. Create a plan to take action on these things. If you fail to plan you plan to fail plain and simple. You deserve the best and if the best is what you want, you have to start with giving your best. It is how you will receive it. Make sure that you create goals and a new schedule that will stretch and excite you otherwise you will get bored and uninterested quickly and ruin your chances of achieving the life you want.
3. Take action on these things. They will not just happen. You have to put these things into action. Schedule intentional time for you every day to work on these habits. Don’t forget to have date night once a week where you spend intentional time with just you. Whether you are single or in relationship, you need quality time to spend with yourself so that you can pour into you.
I want you to know that if you desire a romantic relationship, singleness is only for a season. It is however a very important season. This season is your opportunity to set a stable and firm foundation for your life. If you want to be in a relationship, you must first master your most important relationship, the one you have with yourself. These habits that you build now will set you up to have stronger relationships where you feel empowered, have effective boundaries, and feel safe. I want to help you to build a strong foundation and help you to master your best relationship. But you have to take the first step by booking your complimentary discovery call with me. In this session we can discuss the root issues and create an action plan for transformation. Book now at
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