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The Art of One: How to Remain Focused on Your Goals While Dating

So now you’re dating!!Well congrats to you both!! I bet you finish each other’s sentences by now, don’t you? How cute! Do you find yourself thinking about this person day and night? Just in love with being in love? Hey, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But you know what? I am willing to bet that you have forgotten all about your goals. Those things that you have decided you wanted to achieve before years end. Maybe it was a goal that meant more to you when you were single but now you feel like it can go on the back burner. Let me tell you, that is far from the truth. You see, in a relationship we are still individuals. We still have individual goals and purpose that only we can fulfill. Our partners should be there to support us, not hinder us and vice versa. Well it’s the end of the year now so maybe it can wait? Absolutely not. Now is the perfect time to get focused and ready for 2019 if you have found yourself getting off track. I got your back and I’m here to show you how. Let’s get started!!

1. Be upfront with your partner about your goals. One of the best ways to grow your budding relationship is being honest about who you are and what your dreams and goals are. Your partner wants to know that you trust them with that part of your life and you want to be supported. A loving partner will assist you in meeting your goals and keep you accountable. And don’t be selfish. Encourage them to go after their goals and be there for them as they are there for you. It’s also a great way to build a foundation of communication, trust, and respect.

2. Make time to accomplish your goals. It is important to make time for what’s important. You do have time to work on your goals and spend time with that special someone. Since it’s the end of the year, now is the perfect time to establish a schedule between the both of you. Make a date night where you both have each other’s undivided attention. Then, set aside time to work on your goals. For instance, date night can be Friday nights so you know that you have at least Monday through Thursday to do what needs to be done. Do what works for the both of you.

3. Do NOT procrastinate. Use your time wisely. If you notice that you are watching YouTube or scrolling Pinterest when you really should be working, hold yourself accountable for that. Use a calendar to schedule your time so that it keeps you accountable and when you accomplish a task, check it off. We all know how good that feels. If you keep putting things off, it will roll right into the time you should be spending with your partner and you don’t want to take away from your “together time” do you? Yeah, I know you don’t. But its all good because you got this! No time will be wasted!

These are just a few tips to get you started. Have a talk with your lovebug and lay it all out there. Anyone who is for you will support you and you will make it a point to support them because you care. Remember you can have it all and you can achieve it all. Be blessed!!

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